Thursday, June 9, 2011

Life on Marz - Month Two!

Has it been two months already?  That's what the calendar tells us! 

Overall, we're all doing great and things are getting easier, I think.  This is not to say that we haven't taken turns hitting walls this month.  At different times, for different ones of us, exhaustion has set in and we've had to just acknowledge that we are freakin' tired.  One day, for example, Vitalik went back to bed after breakfast and just slept until 3pm.  He was uncharacteristically down that day and just needed to rest a LOT.  I finally got him up with a milkshake bribe, which eventually brought him back to life.  As he started feeling like talking a little more, he acknowledged that he's tired of speaking English all the time (con etchno!  of course!)  From the time they wake up each day until the time they go to sleep, their brains have to work a LOT harder than we will ever know, just to function.  They are both doing an incredible job and we're so proud of them.  Of course, the fact that Vitalik has had only one such day during his first two months in the US is pretty amazing.  :o)

This month, Lera has become less moody, more carefree and comfortable, and just seems happier than she seemed during her first few weeks in the US.  She and Aunt Tracy have become very close, and she loves sleepovers with Tracy and little cousin Zendi.  One night, Tracy braided her hair into a million braids, which looked very cool (though daddy hated it of course!)  Lera and her Dad have a special bond, and he pretends to cry when she leaves for a sleepover, sometimes calling her and playfully begging her to come home.  Of course, the little brothers follow Vitalik's lead and all cheer with joy when she leaves for a sleepover! ;-)  She is a quirky girl with a strong sense of self, and we love her a lot! 

Our Ukrainian kids got to meet their Kentucky grandpa and their Korean grandma (Harmony) this month!  They learned that Grandpa has a very big belly, puts his teeth in a cup when he sleeps, and cooks a mean country breakfast.  They learned that Harmony gives fantastic presents and cooks incredible Korean food!  On their last night here, Harmony cooked an awesome meal for our entire extended family.  After sampling the foods, Vitalik declared, "Harmony no go home tomorrow.  Maybe stay two months."  Later after eating way too much, he patted his big belly and said, "What name my baby?  Maybe Jack."

Both kids are speaking English with more confidence.  They ride their new bikes (Spuh-see-buh, Harmony and Grandpa!) to the pool and around the neighborhood.  They are enjoying many kind new friends in the neighborhood, and they still have more than dvah messits (two months) until school starts in the fall, so we are all feeling optimistic that by the time they enter school, the new friends and the improved English will make things a lot easier than they may have been if our arrival in the US had been timed differently. 

Vitalik has joined our neighborhood swim team and we are incredibly proud of him!  Jumping in and swimming freestyle, backstroke, breast stroke and butterfly with kids who have received proper instruction in these strokes for the past 8-10 years takes courage and optimism, and our son has these qualities in abundance!  :o)  After one week of practice, he has all of the major strokes down, and completed our team's practice meet without embarrassing himself at all (which was my personal prayer for him!) -- the worst part was having to get used to the speedo shorts (thankfully the long kind!) that the kids wear during meets, and now that he's over that hurdle, I think he'll really enjoy the season.  He is excited to begin working to break his personal best records at each meet.  We are especially thankful for the kind friends who help to translate the coach's instructions for each practice drill into words/phrases/and motions that Vitalik understands! 

Lera elected not to join the swim team ("no good costume"), and we think she made the right choice.  She is loving her social time at the pool each day, visiting with kind friends, playing, diving, and collecting photos of Justin Bieber!  

The three original Cline boys are all doing great as well.  All 5 of our kids still totally accept one another as siblings, and we are so thankful!  We continue to add new Russian words and phrases to our family vocabulary each week.  As Spencer (8) signed up for a Spanish class at school, he declared, "I know I will be good at learning Spanish, because just think about how much Russian I have learned already!"  We adore hearing Lera and Vitalik speak their native language to one another and to Russian-speaking friends, and we pray that they will never lose the ability to fluently speak Russian, as people who fluently speak multiple languages are super-heros in our view!  Both kids have fun laughing at our attempts to speak their language.  The smiles I get when I playfully scold or tease Vitalik in broken Russian are particularly priceless! 

It is exciting to look back and see how much progress we have all made in the past month.  Our goal is not perfection, but incremental progress.  As we begin our third month together, we know we are tired, we are beginning to regenerate a little bit at a time, and we are looking forward to a great summer.

Here are a few photos from the past month!

Playing dress-up!  Good times!

Fun with the costume box.  They both already have plans for what they will be for Halloween!

Aunt Tracy is one of Lera's very best pals!



My mothers' day breakfast in bed!  Vitalik looks thrilled to be awake early doesn't he! ;-) 

Vitailk took this photo of his funny Dad seeking comfort foods after a week of too much (robata) work!

Now that she is retired, Harmony takes classes to learn better English too.  She has a lot in common with her new grandchildren. :o) 

Vitalik with good friend David (Yarik), also from Lezovoe Boarding School, now residing two miles down the road in Cary.

With Harmony and Grandpa

Lera and Daddy have a special affection for one another.  This whole father/daughter relationship thing is pretty cool!

10 NC cousins at the pool!

Monday, May 9, 2011

Life on Marz - Our First Month at Home

Greetings from the red planet!  We have been home for a month now and things are going very well.  Of course, adjusting to our "new normal" takes a bit of energy for all of us, but all-in-all, we are incredibly satisfied and just so thankful to be living through this special time together. 

The remarkable thing about the past month has been how perfectly natural everything feels most of the time.  Vitalik and Lera have easily claimed our family and our home as their own.  All five of the kids just believe the whole thing.  There has been no notable jealousy between any of them... they live, laugh, love, cry, irritate the crap out of each other, laugh some more.  I think that all-in-all, the seven of us are really enjoying this whole new life together, and honestly could not imagine it being any other way.  It is really beautiful ... noisy and chaotic most of the time, but beautiful for sure! 

The kids are doing lots of bike-riding and skateboarding, back-yard soccer, and playing with cousins and friends.  We are going through neosporin ointment and bandaids with such vigor that Eugene seriously needs to consider investing in the companies that make both products. 

Since we arrived home so late in the school year, we have decided to informally home-school until fall, at which time, Lera will enter 7th grade and Vitalik, 8th grade.  The new kids' English is coming along very well, and the little brothers and cousins enjoy using the few Russian words and phrases that they are learning.

Here are a few photos from our first month at home together. 
First, from our arrival at RDU on April 9th, 2011.  It was a glorious homecoming for sure!!

Virtually all of the people in this photo, foreground and background, were there to greet us. 

Excited brothers with cousin Krystin.

Anxious friends, cousins, and brothers.


Here we come!  It was really amazing to be welcomed by so many special loved ones!!!  What a special moment!
One of those there to greet us was Lera and Vitalik's friend Yarik (David) from the same school in Ukraine. 
He had arrived home in America only a few weeks earlier. 

RDU Parking Grarage... heading home.

This photo was taken during our first few minutes at home as a family of seven!


Our first month at home together has included LOTS of back-yard fun!








Friends prepared so many awesome meals and treats that we didn't have to cook for at least a week.  This beautiful "Welcome Home" cake was made by our friend Julie.  It was delicious!!

Bleeding Brothers!  Very proud of their first cycling scrapes together!
Zendi, the youngest of our NC brood, adores her new cousins and they seem to enjoy her company as well!  She and Lera are really good pals!

Feeding apples to the horse who lives over our back fence.
Vitalik and little Zendi chillin' and watching TV together.

Lera poses with dear friend Eleni... aren't her new glasses pretty!?

Lera enjoyed being reunited with Angelina.  Angelina was also part of the group of kids who came from Ukraine to NC last summer.  She joined her new family in America a few weeks before we got home with Lera and Vitalik.


OK, so with all of his awesome tricks, Vitalik had managed to live this long without breaking a bone... and after only 8 days in our home, yep, you guessed it... a broken collar bone from a cycling accident on our street!  This picture perfectly encapsulates his "recovery phase."  You should have seen the tricks that kid could do with one arm in a sling!  :o) 

Vitalik and Lera's first experience with the Easter Bunny! 

In our back yard after church on Easter.
Ten good-lookin' cousins - Easter 2011.  :o)

Friday, April 8, 2011

Farewell Ukraine

Today is our last day in Ukraine, and I have to say that while we will obviously be glad to get home, there is much that we will miss about this place.  For sure, our time in Ukraine with Lera and Vitalik has been incredibly precious, and we truly have savored it.  There have been many pillow fights, wrestling matches, many good meals at cafes and at home.  We have walked through the underground (literally) markets of Simferopol and Kyiv, eaten ice cream cones and totally amazing street-vendor hotdogs, watched a lot of Russian film on the computer, and they have done lots of enthusiastic and hysterical singing and dancing to music (Russian and English)... often when we wished they would just sit still and be quiet!  I don't imagine that we will ever again have time with just the four of us, and it has been a real pleasure.  Still, obviously, it is now time for us to go home and become a family of seven... and begin enjoying a new joyful chaos.

Tomorrow morning at 2:30am Kyiv time, we wake up to catch our car to the airport and begin the approximately 26 hour process of getting home.  After we complete this last leg of our journey, the travel statistics for this adoption will look something like this:
- Travel Began: January 15, 2011
- Travel Ended: April 9, 2011
- Number of Trips to Ukraine:  3
- Total Time Away from Spencer, Heath, and Mason:  About 40 days
- Total Distance Traveled:  approximately 32,000 miles
- Total Number of Airplane Flights for each of us:  18
- Total Cost ... Honestly, a bargain at any price!!

Here are a few photos from our last few days in Ukraine...

A few days earlier, before hopping the 15-hr train from Simferopol to Kyiv.  Here are Lera and Vitalik with our amazing driver.  A very special man who visits the orphanage often and truly loves these kids.  He served as our driver, and also as our Russian tutor... he made our time in Ukraine incredibly special.  Saying goodbye was bittersweet. 

Some of the several friends who came to the train station in Simferopol for a lovely send-off. 
Have I mentioned that these kids have been well-loved?  :o)
 

Getting on the train to leave Simferopol was the hardest part so far for all 4 of us. 
There was not a dry eye among us as we waved goodbye out the train window.
"Eto Trudna.  (It is hard.)"
Being adopted can be exhausting.  Here at 10am in our Kyiv apartment, even Eugene's stinky feet did not make Vitalik budge.  Later, when I tried singing to wake him up, he coined a favorite new phrase, "Mouth Off!"

Lera in the kitchen making sliced apples... microwaved to make them warm and soft. 
I loved them... Eugene and Vitalik, not so much!

Lera enjoying "kasha i musica" (cereal and music).

Vitalik helping to give dad a haircut... notice Vitalik's very stylish Ukrainian haircut...
soon-after made America-ready at his request, "It is no-good - America." 

Vitalik getting his hair trimmed. :o)

Lera in one of her favorite positions. :o)
Eugene found this cap and just had to give it a try.  Oh yeah - he looks awesome! 

We did a good bit of walking around the truly beautiful city of Kyiv.  None of our pics were great.  All had eyes closed or someone frowning, so here is the best shot we have! ;-)

Vitalik and I have lots of fun comparing gymnastic abilities.  He has far better tricks but I am still pretty good at stretching - which seems cool to me only because he thinks it is.  :o)

Vitalik doing an ariel (cartwheel w/ no hands) -- Ne trudna (It's not hard). 

Vitalik demonstrating pretty decent flexibility himself. :o)

Goofy family in the kitchen.

Monday, April 4, 2011

Our Week in Simferopol

 Wow!  No time to blog!  We are all happy.  There have been normal ups and downs, but we are feeling very fortunate thus far considering the enormity of the changes these kids are dealing with.  It has been really precious to have this time as a family of four.  Once we get home to the rest of our noisy brood, things will be very different...also awesome, but very different!  So we have been trying to treasure each minute of this special time, beginning to bond with our two precious teenagers!!

Here are a few photos from our very special week in Simferopol together.  Tomorrow afternoon, we hope to have their new passports in hand and be heading to Kyiv on the 15 hour trian to begin US Immigration processing. 


Vitalik master-minded this meal with me as his assistant.  It was so cool, he totally knew what he was doing and it turned out great.  Fried potatoes, garlic, onions, and kiobasa with a side salad of tomatoes, cucumbers, and onions... and of course, bread. 
Me: "Should I add salt?"  Vitalik:  "Potom (later)... maybe 10 minutes."  The boy had patience in the kitchen (something I always lack) and it turned out to be the best meal we've had in awhile!


Vitalik and I had fun practicing gymnastics together... i.e., stretching.  He was very impressed with my flexibility, but I'll tell ya, I sure can't do this!!  Moi spina eto stara! (My back is old!)



Lera and Dad made lunch one day of awesome grilled cheese sandwiches with chips and apple slice.

Lera's new doll, which she named Eleni. :o)

Lera's favorite spot in our Simferopol apartment... in front of the TV.  We've been letting her enjoy it more than we usually would while all of the programming is in Russian! 


Both kids are enjoying practicing English using Rosetta Stone software.  They think the sentences sound so hillarious!  Lera Still cannot say "The girl is drinking." without laughing hysterically!  They are both doing great with learning English.  Vitalik speaks a lot more than she does just because his personality is more extroverted.  She understands a LOT though, so we will have to begin watching what we are saying around both of them!

God's timing brought V&L's missionary friend Esther back to Lezevoyeh only 3 days before they left forever... just in time to hear their great news and give them her contact info to share with their new parents.  She and her friends have been visiting, writing to, loving, and praying for Vitalik and Lera since they were about 8 yrs old. 



Games with missionaries Esther and (her new husband) Jason at their Simferopol apartment.
 
Looking at photos of L&V dating back to 2004!!!  Even a few video clips!  An AMAZING unexpected blessing that they (and we!) will have photos from these years, and even contact with missionary friends in Ukraine and America who remember them as beautiful sweet children!  Just Priceless!!!


After lunch at a restaurant overlooking the Black Sea.
 

an overlook at the black sea



at the black sea
 
  

Enough photos!  Ne Yeshyo! (no more!)



Enjoying her new IPod Shuffle, a gift from our dear family friends in America.

Diggin' the tunes on his new IPod shuffle.



At a Simferopol park which featured strange dark artwork.  Vitalik loved it of course!



We woke Lera up from a nap to go on this outing.  She cooperated, but she NEVER pretends to be happy when she is not!  I admire that quality in her, although, sometimes, a little pretending might be nice!! ;-)


Lunch with dear translator missionary friend Natalya on our last day in Simferopol.